How to Catch A Cheater
You suspect he is cheating or you know he is cheating but how do you actually catch a cheater?
There is just no good way to discover your partner is cheating.
It is unpleasant, heartbreaking and soul destroying leading to anger and sadness.
Anger for what has happened to the relationship and sadness for losing something precious.
Am I Imagining Things?
Finding out your partner is cheating and lying can feel like a physical blow and the problem can be made worse by the fact that you are not sure if you are being paranoid.
Have you got that ‘pit in the stomach’ feeling ? Often it is proven to have some truth.
Don’t ignore that feeling.
Now What Do I Do?
Suspecting something is not right is one thing but then having the courage to do something about it, is confronting and could be life changing.
There will be no shortage of people who will offer advice at a time like this but it may be a time when you want to go it alone. Only you will know the answer to that but wanting to confide in friends is a natural response.
Some people will withdraw and need time to process the events at their own pace and alone.
Both are entirely okay and it is only you who knows the best way for you to cope with the initial bombshell.
Okay so you have the gut feeling he is cheating but here are some warning signs that will alert you to the fact that you have a cheating partner.
A Cheating Partner May Give Warning Signs
Alert! At the beginning of an affair a man may actually be more attentive than usual. He has feelings of guilt and he will try to compensate.
Then over time this diminishes and he will withdraw and be distant.
Then he is able to justify to himself the reason for his actions.
Being cold and distant is a BIG clue.
Another Biggie! A sexual request that is different to the norm can be a clue that not all is as it should be.
Loss Of Interest In Family And Friends
Is he showing signs of emotional detachment and doesn’t seem interested in what is happening with family and friends and just loses interest in spending time with the kids?
He may become distant and cold, finding fault where none exists.
Alert! What he is doing is blaming the family and particularly his wife for his behavior and in doing this he creates distance. This then gives him a reason for thinking that the relationship is on the rocks.
Check The Bank Balance
There may be changes in joint finances such as unexplained charges on a credit card or withdrawals from a saving account.
These things can be entirely innocent and it is usually in conjunction with other suspicious behavior that leads a partner to start putting two and two together.
Just keep an eye on things.
Should you look at your partner’s phone?
Well, I am not the phone police but let me say that it is a mighty big temptation to check the phone if you suspect things are not right.
Alert! Are messages being deleted straightaway?
Mostly people do not get around to deleting messages immediately so this can be regarded as unusual, suspicious behavior.
When he is on the phone does he stop speaking and look alarmed when you enter the room or hang up suddenly or whisper into the phone?
These are all signs that something may be up.
Check the last number dialed.
The body image of the guilty party may change. He may lose weight, start going to the gym or buy new clothes and generally just take more interest in his appearance.
What Do You Do Now?
Now that you have determined that your partner is cheating you have a decision to make. What are you going to do? You have several choices.
- You confront your partner and ask for the truth
- You employ an agency to obtain physical proof by the way of photographs or video
- You employ some methods of your own that do require more detective work from you. Keylogger software records keystrokes on a keyboard and allows you to keep track of all information on a computer. A GPS tracker uses the global positioning system to determine the precise location of a vehicle.
Normally the first option would be the route to take and is what most people choose.
There is No Easy Way To Confront your Partner
Good Idea! Some people choose a public place so that the confrontation doesn’t end in a shouting and blaming match.
It’s a heart pounding experience so try to anticipate some of his responses so that you can be prepared with what you will say.
Mentally rehearse things you might want to say.
Still Not Sure If He Is Cheating?
Sometimes the help of a professional is needed but say you don’t want to hire a private investigator. For one thing, that can be very expensive and maybe you are not sure about going down that path. That is understandable.
You can actually secure the services of Edward Talurdey, who has worked as a private investigator for 16 years by using his system Catch A Cheat. It has over 70 pages of information in a downloadable e-book. Listen to Edward’s video as he explains what will happen.
It is gives you all insider secrets on the methods used to catch cheating partners plus techniques and a step by step method for you to gather information. With this program you will have the information you need to decide whether you will go or stay.
Every person who suspects they are being cheated on owes it to themselves to find out the truth.