Is the romance “dead” in your relationship?
Rekindling romance in a marriage is not easy. Anyone in a long-term relationship knows how things change over the time of a marriage and how easy it is to lose that “loved up” feeling that you had so much of in the early days of your relationship.
The romance might be dead or dying in your relationship or marriage but let’s face it, romance in a marriage can have a hard time stacking up against having a family, running a business, career aspirations and just day to day life. You didn’t mean to lose the romance, it just got lost in the hum drum of daily life.
How To Rekindle Romance In A Marriage
You want it back you say!
Make sure you watch the look on Rachael’s face when she sees the results.
The texts Michael talks about are in his program and are the exact texts used, so even if you have no idea, you can succeed with this program and then once you are on the way, well anything can happen.
Just so you know, this is not about sexting.
It is easy for romance after marriage to come a poor second or third and to eventually be non existent altogether.
When you have been together for a long time, it is easy to take the other partner for granted and even fall into some undesirable patterns of behavior that just eat away at any thoughts of romance. Sound familiar?
Then when you do sit back and take stock you wonder what happened. Where did all that time go and what happened to romance? Romance is now a long distant memory. Maybe you think, it’s too late.
Don’t beat yourself up about it or moan to friends, ‘he’s just not romantic’, ‘you can do something about it. Click here to see one option.
How To Bring Romance Back Into Your Marriage
Relationships do break up, even after many years of being together. Whether your partner has declared a diminished feeling of love or you just know from their behavior, there are some ways to help ensure your partner falls in love with you again.
Here Are Some Actionable Steps
Don’t go overboard! He may wonder if something is up. Just kidding but put one of these steps into action each day.
Be Kind and Considerate
This sounds so straightforward but we tend to lose our manners with our partners fairly early in the relationship and don’t even realize it. Think about how you talk to friends or work colleagues and often they will be treated more courteously than a partner. There’s no finger pointing of blame here, it is just something that can happen with time.
Some spouses become downright mean and abusive, at least verbally, so be sympathetic if it’s been a hard day or something has happened to bring your partner sadness or concern.
Fetch the newspaper. Water the plants.
Let your partner know that you care about the things and are interested in, the things he or she cares about.
It is always the little things that count. You don’t have to spend a million bucks to let your partner know you care. Ok, if you have a spare million bucks, that could be helpful too – kidding.
Make An Effort
Taking time to present your best side is a way of being respectful of your partner’s feelings. It lets him or her know you care what he or she thinks about you.
Be Persuasive Instead Of Critical
It’s amazing how different “I just love the way you look in your new blue shirt” sounds from “Surely you aren’t going to wear that faded green thing again!”
Criticism is a real turnoff for pretty much anyone and you don’t want him to be defensive about ‘the faded green thing’ because then the faded green thing can become an issue. Get my drift?
Respect Your Partner’s Opinion
Do you really have to insist on being right all of the time! Of course not. If this is a pattern you have fallen into it might take some stern talking to yourself to break this habit.
Just try ‘letting go’
It can be done (OK, grit your teeth, it will get easier) and you will feel so pleased with yourself.
Although feeling pleased with yourself is not the primary objective, you will be pleased with yourself when you see the harmony that this simple step can bring.
Respect your partner’s opinion, consider what he or she is saying and give credit where credit is due.
You don’t have to agree but you can certainly respect their point of view.
Marriage And Romance Advice
A lot of advice is centred around – How to rekindle romance in a marriage? – this will direct your focus on thinking about what attracted you to your partner in the first place.
This is definitely worth considering BUT also worth considering is the attitudes and behaviors that you had when you first got together.
You did treat each other with respect and were mindful of the how the other person might react to things you said.
Just take the time to put those measures back into place, don’t take your partner for granted and appreciate the things your partner does for you.
Love Is A Verb
Thinking of love as a verb is an excellent way of getting some perspective on your relationship. A verb is a doing word which means that you take action to show the other person your love.
Your partner is far more likely to respond with loving actions and life just becomes easier.
Marriage and romance can go hand in hand but it does take awareness of how you treat each other. You will be surprised at how easy it is, once you get started.