Stay Young At Heart
Age! What is it? Our physical age, our mental or cognitive age or our emotional age? Staying young at heart means involving all of those parts of our human psyche.
Most women would agree that the body shows signs of aging at a time when the mind is in a really good place. It’s kind of annoying that the body starts going down the gurgler when we finally get our mind in a good place. All those insecurities and worries we had when we were younger just seem to go away and are not on the radar anymore.
It seems somewhat ironic and it would be really good if the two could be aligned. Sigh! That ain’t going to happen.
On the flip side, body issues, although important are now not as important. You know that little dark circle near the eyes, okay now there’s more than one but nothing a bit of concealer can’t cope with when absolutely necessary. Yay for concealer.
So how do you continue to feel young at heart even though time is slipping by? You can keep that spring in your step (didn’t your Mother tell you not to shuffle?) and you can and should feel confident in your own skin.
There are any number of wonderful role models of older women. PS just to be on the safe side, there’s going to be no mention of actual ages, as that will depend on where you are in the aging process.
1. Keep Up With Technology
You might think, what has this got to do with being young at heart. I don’t mean that you have to be using Snapchat or Instagram (although you can if you want to ) but rather knowing how to use the technology that is just about essential for everyday life.
Paying bills online, sending and responding to emails and browsing online are part of our lives now.
I love technology but it doesn’t come easily to everyone and especially those who have spent a good part of their life without it.
Make an attempt to learn and master the basics. If you are reading this, then you are already browsing the web but maybe you have friends who have some quite antiquated ideas about technology. It is scary for some people so small steps are the way to go.
2. Have An Active Social Life
Engage with other people on a daily basis. There is an exception to this – maybe you like to take yourself off every now and then to have some alone time. More power to you I say.
Generally though communicating with other people in a social setting is desirable. It may be making contact with someone at the store or at the gym or at the coffee shop.
Talking to and being around other people is a good thing.
Take a look at your life. Do you need to make more of an effort in this area?
It’s a very personal thing. One person will relish the freedom of being alone whereas someone else will be lonely.
3. A Makeover
Yes you read correctly. I know it’s done to death on TV but have you ever thought of having a style and color makeover? This makes me excited because I have done this and it is fun fun fun plus what you learn is amazing. You may already have your colors down pat but a fresh pair of eyes on style might throw up some surprises.
Who knew that a square neckline was going to look sensational on you and that wide pants are a no no but skinny ones look amazing. It’s all to do with Math but way more fun that Math ever was at school ( now there’s an idea).
I was most surprised when the very first thing that happened at the appointment was that all of my measurements were taken.
Yes, the short legs are confirmed mathematically but hey, now I know tricks to make my legs look longer. Well they look longer in my eyes anyway.
How did I get to this age without knowing some pretty basic stuff. I can 100% guarantee that this is super fun, a real eye opener and you will have plenty of takeaways that will make shopping so much easier. I now know that when I walk into a store or shop online that I can eliminate certain colors and styles.
Plus, I can immediately scan a store to see if there is anything there for me. I can almost just stand in the doorway and look in.
I’m not kidding. I have really built up speed in this area. Is there a contest somewhere for that?
Plus having your styles and colors done is a really nice way to be pampered and fussed over in a good way.
Take a friend, it’s double the fun.
4. Keep That Body Moving
It doesn’t matter what you do in a physical sense as long as it is something you enjoy doing, can do on a regular basis and don’t see as a chore. The minute exercise becomes a chore, it is so easy to make those little excuses and before you know it that gym membership hasn’t been used for months.
I have finally heeded my own advice in this area. I don’t like gyms so why have I enrolled in so many? Ever the optimist, I usually start with great gusto but essentially I find gyms boring so gradually, bit by bit I stop going. Then I spend the next few months or the term of the membership I have paid for, feeling guilty about not going. It is such a relief when the membership finally expires and I can wipe that bit of guilt from the slate.
I have worked out what is good for me, what I like doing and can sustain on a long term basis, barring injury or illness.
I love Zumba. It’s fun the music and energy of a class is uplifting plus it’s a really good workout. I also love walking so at last I have found two things that work for me. I throw in a few kettlebell exercises that I do using several Youtube videos and I feel as though I have all bases covered without being a slave to exercise. There’s nothing like feeling young at heart when nobody’s watching.
Find what works for you. It may be the gym, plus some gyms do offer other classes so it can be good bang for your buck.
If you have problems walking or moving, aqua walking or walking in water could be something to try. You may have a pool nearby or maybe there is a pool at a community centre that you have never checked out. I have noticed that some people at the pool are walking for rehabilitation purposes (people of all ages) however if you have a medical condition it is essential to speak to a doctor before undertaking any exercise.
It is a fun thing to do with a friend. It’s a good way to exercise without putting too much pressure on the joints. It’s a good way to socialise, add in breakfast or a coffee afterwards and you are off to a great start for the day.
The beauty of this exercise is that you can go at your own pace. I like to add in an upper body workout so I wear aqua gloves which give the appearance of a webbed hand. While walking, I keep my arms under the water and as I move my arms backwards and forwards through the water there is resistance. Resistance exercises are good for building muscle or maintaining muscle and strength. If I add some speed to my walking it makes it a very good workout for my upper body. These are the aqua gloves I use. I’ve had the same pair for a couple of years now and although they have faded they are not showing any sign of deterioration.
Depending on where you live, this activity may be seasonal. I actually see that as a good thing as it means you won’t tire of it and it’s something to look forward to in warmer weather. There is a heated indoor pool near me so there’s no excuses.
I also do regular Tai Chi lessons and practise at home.
There are similar benefits are to be had in Yoga and Pilates.
I do like to work out a sweat when exercising as In Zumba but that doesn’t have to be true of all exercise.
An exercise class is also social as you are communicating with other people who have the same interest and many groups get together for a coffee after class.
5. Laugh and Have Fun
Staying young at heart is much more than just a physical sense. Maintain a sense of fun and delight in everyday things. Laughter really is the best medicine and you know how good you feel when you have a good laugh with friends. It can be easy to become disconnected when family are not around or circumstances mean you are alone.
Try to catch yourself smiling. They do say that smiling is a mood lifter even when there is nothing especially to smile about. The jury is still out on this one but it sure won’t hurt to give it a try.