Most women would agree that the body shows signs of aging at a time when the mind is in a really good place.
So how do you continue to feel young at heart even though time is slipping by?
You can keep that spring in your step (didn’t your Mother tell you to stand up straight and not to shuffle?) and you can and should feel confident in your own skin.
Keep Up With Technology
You might think, what has this got to do with being young at heart. You don't have to be using Snapchat or Instagram but rather knowing how to use the technology that is just about essential for everyday life.
Paying bills online, sending and responding to emails and browsing online are part of our lives now.
Make an attempt to learn and master the basics. If you are reading this, then you are already browsing the web but maybe you have friends who have some quite antiquated ideas about technology.
It is scary for some people so small steps are the way to go. People who are afraid of technology will often ‘pooh pooh’ the whole idea because it is the unknown. Just accept that it isn’t for everyone but you may also be able to help a friend become technology savvy and that is great for both of you.
Have An Active Social Life
Engage with other people on a daily basis. There is an exception to this – maybe you like to take yourself off every now and then to have some alone time. More power to you I say.
Generally though communicating with other people in a social setting is desirable. It may be making contact with someone at the store or at the gym or at the coffee shop.
Talking to and being around other people is a good thing. Women tend to be better at this than men however even women can fall into a rut sometimes, that's when you need to have a bit of a talking to yourself (best done when you are alone).
Take a look at your life. Do you need to make more of an effort in this area?
It’s a very personal thing. One person will relish the freedom of being alone whereas someone else in the same situation, will be lonely.
I know what you are thinking. Seriously I need a makeover like a hole in the head but consider this - sometimes we get stuck in a bit of a timewarp and maybe things have changed, body parts may have taken on a different shape (notice how nicely I said that) and things that once looked hot now do not!
This makes me excited because I have done this and it is fun fun fun, plus what you learn is amazing. You may already have your colors down pat but a fresh pair of eyes on style might throw up some surprises.
I loved that the detail covered things I wasn't expecting such as what shape and size glasses were the best for my face and what hats suited me (previously I would have said none) and size jewelry and patterns on clothes. I know what necklines are flattering and what skirt styles and lengths and much much more.
Who knew that a square neckline was going to look sensational and that wide pants are a no no but skinny ones look amazing. It’s all to do with Math but way more fun that Math ever was
at school ( now there’s an idea).
I was most surprised when the very first thing that happened at the appointment was that all of my measurements were taken. Yes, scary but it was for the greater good.
Yes, the short legs are confirmed mathematically but hey, now I know tricks to make my legs look longer. Well they look longer in my eyes anyway.
How did I get to this age without knowing some pretty basic stuff? I can 100% guarantee that this is super fun, a real eye opener and you will have plenty of takeaways that will make shopping so much easier.
I now know that when I walk into a store or shop online that I can eliminate certain colors and styles.
Plus, I can immediately scan a store to see if there is anything there for me. I can almost just stand in the doorway and look in.
I’m not kidding. I have really built up speed in this area. Is there a contest somewhere for that?
Plus having your styles and colors done is a really nice way to be pampered and fussed over in a good way.
You will have more confidence knowing that you look on the outside how you feel on the inside but also it is great having a wardrobe of things that go together instead of a lot of outfits that can't be mixed and matched.
It's always a good idea for a birthday present from the family and that is exactly what my style and colour makeover was. I just had to point them in the right direction but hey girls, we are good at that already.
Keep That Body Moving
Yes, you have to! It doesn’t matter what you do in a physical sense as long as it is something you enjoy doing, can do on a regular basis and don’t see as a chore.
The minute exercise becomes a chore, it is so easy to make those little excuses and before you know it that gym membership hasn’t been used for months
I finally heeded my own advice in this area. I don’t like gyms so why have I enrolled in so many?
Ever the optimist, I usually start with great gusto but essentially I find gyms boring so gradually, bit by bit I stop going. Then I spend the next few months or the term of the membership I have paid for, feeling guilty about not going.
It is such a relief when the membership finally expires and I can wipe that bit of guilt from the slate.
I have worked out what is good for me, what I like doing and can sustain on a long term basis, barring injury or illness.
I love Zumba. It’s fun the music and energy of a class is uplifting plus it’s a really good workout.
I also love walking, so at last I have found two things that consistently work for me. I throw in a few kettlebell exercises that I do using several Youtube videos and I feel as though I have all bases covered without being a slave to exercise.
Find what works for you. It may be the gym, plus some gyms do offer other classes so it can be good bang for your buck.
If you have problems mobility problems, aqua walking or walking in water could be something to try. You may have a pool nearby or maybe there is a pool at a community centre that you have never checked out.
I have noticed that some people at the pool are walking for rehabilitation purposes (people of all ages) however if you have a medical condition it is essential to speak to a doctor before undertaking any exercise.
It is a fun thing to do with a friend. You can probably see that "fun" features fairly strongly in my life. It’s a good way to exercise without putting too much pressure on the joints.
It’s also a good way to socialise, a bit of walk and talk and then add in breakfast or a quick coffee afterwards and you are off to a great start for the day.
The beauty of this exercise is that you can go at your own pace. I like to add in an upper body workout, so I wear aqua gloves which give the appearance of a webbed hand.
While walking, I keep my arms under the water and as I move my arms backwards and forwards through the water there is resistance. Resistance exercises are good for building muscle or maintaining muscle and strength.
If I add some speed to my walking it makes it a very good workout for my upper body. These are the aqua gloves I use. I’ve had the same pair for a couple of years now and although they have faded they are not showing any sign of deterioration.
Depending on where you live, this activity may be seasonal. I actually see that as a good thing as it means you won’t tire of it and it’s something to look forward to in warmer weather. There is a heated indoor pool near me so there’s no excuses but I still make them anyway.
I also doTai Chi lessons and practise at home.
There are similar benefits to be had in Yoga and Pilates.
An exercise class is also social as you are communicating with other people who have the same interest and many groups get together for a coffee after class.
Laugh and Have Fun
Staying young at heart is much more than just a physical sense. Maintain a sense of fun and delight in everyday things.
Laughter really is the best medicine and you know how good you feel when you have a good laugh with friends. Did I mention, being silly? A good dose of that helps too. It can be easy to become disconnected when family are not around or circumstances mean you are alone.
Try to catch yourself smiling. They do say that smiling is a mood lifter even when there is nothing especially to smile about. The jury is still out on this one but it sure won’t hurt to give it a try.