Before getting into the nitty gritty of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50, I can say that it is full of practical and good advice.
Lisa Copeland, the well known dating coach, has a way of getting to the point without sugar coating the details but at the same time providing enough detail that women over 50 can relate to plus things that women over 50 want to know.
I know because I am one of them and I found the book to be spot on in so many ways.
Even if you are in a relationship it makes good reading because Lisa really has nailed what is important and what is not when it comes to relationships.
The book does incorporate online dating but it is so much more than that.
However if you are recently, divorced, separated, never married or widowed and want to date, Lisa’s advice about how to approach men is invaluable.
&It is a very easy book to read and is not filled with psycho babble.
The Book Is Conveniently Divided Into 7 Steps
Each step has a detailed contents section, so if you are like me and see something that you absolutely must read in Step 6 or Step 5 before you have even read Step 1, you can do that.
Yes, I am one of those strange people who read magazines starting at the back as well. There is probably a personality disorder name for that these days (cynical me).
Eventually though I settled down and read the steps in order.
These are the 7 Steps Lisa outlines in ‘ The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 : 7 Steps To Attracting Quality Men
Step 1 From Insecure To Dating With Confidence
Step 2 Getting In Touch With The Feminine Woman Inside You
Step 3 Understanding Men
Step 4 Getting A Clear Vision Of The Man You Want In Your Life
Step 5 Your Dating Footprint
Step 6 Online Dating
Step 7 The Etiquette Of Dating After 50
Step 1 – From Insecure To Dating With Confidence
Lisa has been through the experience of having a long term relationship fail and she eloquently describes how she felt when it ended.
Consider that, as well as sadness there may be sense of freedom especially if it has been a long term relationship.
However you may have been widowed or not in a relationship and Lisa also talks about the loneliness that comes with finding yourself alone and not knowing how to cope with that.
Lisa has some great advice for taking some first steps before actually getting into dating, after all, it can be a huge leap.
… And girls that includes taking a look at yourself and not just in the physical form but also your mind – where is it at?
As women we are so critical of our physical self and let’s face it, we don’t look like we did in when we were in our 20’s or 30’s but and this is a good point the men you will be dating will be looking at the current you and men aren’t as hung up on our jiggly bits as we are.
You might decide an upgrade in the style department is overdue and Lisa has some good practical suggestions for this.
Lisa explains this so much better than I am able to but every single thing she said in regard to physicality resonated with me.
Step 2 – Getting In Touch With The Feminine Woman Inside You
Were you part of the Burn The Bra movement? Let’s face it when we were young the world was a different place.
Lisa will guide you to discover the sometimes forgotten female inside of you. I know that sounds “new agey” but it’s not. It’s something that we easily overlook.
Consider this – Are you an Alpha or Beta Female?
This is interesting stuff and also gives a glimpse into our own ways of managing our lives that may have been set out auto pilot for a long time.
It was not something I ever thought consciously about in the terms that Lisa speaks of, maybe snippets here and there but not the details that Lisa speaks of.
I love this phrase “Are You Bending Like A Pretzel To Please Him? Warning, Warning! if you are.
It is apt though and a very good metaphor for many women – fortunately I have never liked pretzels.
Step 3 – Understanding Men
There are all sorts of intriguing details in this chapter.
Is he your type?
How do you overcome the dilemma of attracting someone like your ex?
What if you miss your ex?
How can you tell if he is married?
The Bad Boy?
Are you Turning Men Off without even realizing it?
Tons of juicy details in this section and Lisa once again, from experience provides an insight into all of the above.
I think sometimes we are on auto pilot and I know that I would not even have recognized that I was doing something that may have been unhelpful because I just didn’t know or in my case wasn’t even aware of the signs.
There is actually a lot more in this chapter –
Why doesn’t he call back?
Are you a drama queen?
Step 4 – Getting A Clear Vision Of The Man You Want In Your Life
You might need to remove those rose colored glasses and really think about this section.
There is a checklist of questions to ask yourself when determining the relationship potential of man.
What are your deal breakers?
How do you know if he is Mr Right?
Do you share the same values?
Do you know the 3 Types Of Men You Don’t Want To Date?
How to Overcome The Fear Of Relationship Failure
I am leaving some things out but I can’t go past this section that Lisa has on Summarizing The Path To Finding Your Dream Mate.
This is the type of information that I would normally skip to in the beginning allowing my impatience to want to quickly find an answer.
This is indeed a checklist of sorts but a checklist with details and questions to ask yourself.
Step 5 – Your Dating Blueprint
Okay, so this is the down and dirty on the actual dating and how to go about it.
There might be some scary stuff in there for those who haven’t dipped their toes in the dating waters for along time or a lifetime.
This what you need, it is practical information about the mechanics of dating, how to tell if your date is a good guy or a jerk and deciphering male language.
Step 6 – Online Dating
Hold onto your hats – Lisa enjoyed online dating and dated this way for some time.
She really has all the information you need for creating your profile to dealing with the Men you will meet online and what to expect, what is okay and what is not, how to identify and avoid scammers.
Lisa gives lots of detail about how many times to email or phone and the next step, step 7 goes into a lot of detail about the etiquette of dating after 50.
Step 7 – The Etiquette Of Dating After 50
There’s lots of information about email.
This is super important and something that over 50’s may have had little or no experience with in regard to dating.
What about the first date? Should it be coffee or Dinner ? Plus the absolutely essential, nine exit strategies for when the date just isn’t working.
There are lots of other etiquette issues to consider such as
Can you ask him out first?
Who should pay the bill?
What if he decides to send photos that you would rather not see? Lisa answers all of these questions in detail and with great clarity so there is no doubt about what your course of action should be.
The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over Fifty is an outstanding book and I would not hesitate to recommend as an extremely worthwhile purchase and one that you will go back to time and time again.