Why Do Men Pull Away In A Relationship?
One minute everything is going fine and you are on cloud nine. You are in love, you are getting along really well and then all of a sudden there is a change.
There is a frostiness and he seems distant and just not there.
Why do men pull away after getting close?
Just about everyone at some stage has experienced ‘pulling away’ and have wondered what is going on. Women have an in built radar about this sort of thing but often they choose to ignore it rather than face what is happening. Don’t panic!
To face it sometimes means hard decisions have to be made or even an acknowledgment that there may be a problem.
This video will explain what happened and why men seemingly all of a sudden lose interest in the woman they once loved. It’s frustrating to feel shut out and ignored. Plus the information about how to make him love you forever is priceless.
Here is the blueprint that explains how the male mind works
Women think there is something wrong with them, maybe they said or did something that their partner didn’t like.
How many conversations do women have about this exact topic? The conversation goes round and round in circles with no answers. Not to mention the conversations going on in your head and usually with no answers.
Why do men pull away in the beginning of a relationship?
If you are experiencing this very early in a relationship, it may be that he really just isn’t that interested OR he has something else happening in his life that you are unaware of.
If you have been in a longer relationship here are some of the reasons why men pull away.
Why Do Men Pull Away After Getting Close?
1. He Is Feeling Pressured
Do you send multiple text messages and wonder why he doesn’t respond? Are you hassling him, morning noon and night? It might not seem like hassling to you but it probably is to him. Not responding to texts is a pretty big clue.
You may be just too overwhelming and he doesn’t know how to deal with it. Assess this honestly, give him some space.
Maybe it is not the above and you are at that point in the relationship where things may become more serious and look like moving to another level.
So, why do men pull away when they are falling in love?
Even if you are the love of his life and he knows the relationship needs to move forward, he may still be having a freak out about it all.
2. Someone Else?
Unfortunately this happens. He may have met someone else but that doesn’t mean that all hope is lost.
You may just have to work that bit harder to get him back and it is possible.
If all contact has just suddenly stopped totally, it may mean that he really has met someone else and is just not interested anymore. Sometimes, there is already a someone else so you are better off without him anyway. It does happen equally to men and women and is just a part of life.
Don’t have your head in the sand. Are you seeing him only once a week when it used to be two or three times a week?
Is he being evasive? It is really easy to get caught up in the game of love and not notice that there may be some tell tale signs that not all is right.
Take a good look at the facts -a hard thing to do when your heart is involved but sometimes the tough decision is the right one.
3. You Stopped Being His Biggest Fan
Men love it when women are their biggest fans, laugh at their jokes and all round think he is the best thing since sliced bread. Men like to feel wanted and they do like doing things for you.
It’s great being an independent and confident woman but it is nice to let him do things for you too and for you to show you appreciation because if that appreciation starts to fade he may just head to where he is appreciated.
Remember you like to be appreciated too, so sometimes this is really something to work on. Those in successful long term marriages will always say that this is one of the key factors to a successful marriage – it’s the little things that count and add up over a lifetime.
Be nice to each other.
4. The Uncertainty Phase
He is feeling the pressure of losing his freedom. This may be even more so, if his friends are footloose and fancy free.
A man needs his space and you have to have the confidence to give it to him.
Just be wary of the man who needs his space actually meaning – I need my space in order to have other relationships.
Go with your gut instinct. It’s always right.
5. It’s The Chemistry
Yes, it could be the sexual chemistry fading. This is normal and it’s up to the two of you to decide whether to keep pursuing the relationship.
If he has never been in a serious relationship, he may just lack the skills necessary to move forward.
6. He Is Actually Busy
Give him a break. He has a life too and maybe there are parts of his life that you are not aware of yet, things relating to family, work and other commitments.
Don’t let your impatience work against you.
7. You’ve Changed
Well sometimes this is the case and it may not be something that you have done consciously. When you first meet you are happy to be with him, so if he suggests going fishing, yes you go willingly – well maybe not that willingly but you do what it takes to spend time together.
When the relationship becomes more settled some of the things that he liked about you disappear. Oh, okay, you loved going fishing when you first got together but now you didn’t mind going fishing once a year but you really don’t want to go fishing every weekend. He is left feeling a little bewildered and you can’t blame him.
Don’t change your personality to something you think he will like, it won’t work in the long term.
Over time people do change and that is natural but couples who last the distance respect those changes in their partner and make life adjustments accordingly.
He goes on the fishing trips and she goes shopping. Yep, this works really well.
Best advice – start out the way you intend to keep going – don’t pretend to be someone you are not
Maybe he is thinking bigger picture here and wondering how he will cope with the financial pressures of the future that may entail a wife and children.
This is a reality and maybe he feels that it is coming too close – something to consider.
You may just be at different stages of your life as far as commitment is concerned. You are ready to settle down and he is not.
So are you prepared to wait or will you move on?
10. Maybe You Are Not Made For Each Other
It may have felt right for a long time and it is easy to settle into complacency and you both perpetuate this as life carries on its own merry way. You just get caught up in the day to day ordinariness of everyday life. He may have just sensed all of this before you and although there is nothing extremely wrong there is nothing extremely right also.
It is just time to let go.
Communication, in a non-threatening way is key here.
You may decide to have counselling to resolve what is happening and give your relationship another chance before throwing it all away.
Work out why he is pulling away and you will have the answer to many questions.
If you are uncertain, consider that it may be a combination of factors.
Be realistic with yourself.
Sometimes it is the end of a relationship but don’t give up at the first sign of trouble.
Remember that sometimes men pull away when falling in love so this is something you need to assess.
Love can be a rocky road.