Can You Find Love After 50?
To want to find a partner after 50 is extremely common. It is never too late to get back into the dating pool.
Dating sites are reporting a rapidly growing segment of members are men and women under 25 and in their fifties and sixties.
Look at this graph from Pew Research Center to get an idea of the the changing face of online dating.
Note: The article above was updated in February 2016 but I think it is fairly safe to say that the stats would still be pretty much the same.
There are plenty of people out there who are looking for love over fifty, they want to find a partner or companion or husband or wife.
At 50 or 60 what we want from a relationship will be different from our younger selves but it is still really important to be in the right head-space.
In fact for us, online dating didn’t exi
Are You In The Right Head-Space For Dating?
Any worry or anxiety about finding a partner will not translate into someone who is looking for companionship and romance but rather someone whose emotional state come across as being needy.
Whoa! That is a big turn off!
That doesn’t mean super confidence is the way to go either but being comfortable with yourself, knowing your ideals and what you want from life equates with a quiet confidence.
By the time we are in our fifties we pretty much know what we want or at least what we don’t want. That doesn’t mean perfection either.
It is not about living in a particular city, having a certain type of body or a large pool of men to choose from.
Your weight, looks and success does not influence your dating life.
It is all about having the right mindset and being in control of the decisions you take so that you don’t end up with the wrong type of man.
It involves feeling good about yourself, controlling your fears and being charming when you are out there in the dating pool.
So if you are looking online please don’t pass someone over just because they don’t match your ideal of how someone should look.
We are all drawn to our own version of ‘good looking’, just remember to read the profiles and let them be your judge.
Finding Love After Fifty Online Or Through Conventional Meeting Places?
It is likely that you are not sure and maybe it will be a combination of both.
Let’s look at online first.
Online Dating Tips For Women Over 50
You have probably read many times that your profile is important and yes it is, because this is the first thing that a potential suitor will see.
The photograph should be recent, that goes without saying.
There is little point in posting an older but flattering photo and then wonder why your date is confused when you meet.
Men and women do this. It is human nature to want to look our best but please look your ‘current’ best.
Ask someone to take some shots for you and keep going till you get a good photo.
Peter Hurley (famous photographer) has some excellent tips for taking head-shots.
Check out ‘the squinch’ and the jawline video.
I love them and they DO work.
I am a point and click photographer and found these two tips to be simple enough that I could
a) remember them
b) they work
Plus I always feel awkward when having my photo taken. I don’t know that that has improved but at least I feel I have a little control over the outcome.
Most of us tend to stand in front of the camera and look a bit bug eyed so Peter’s hints are definitely worth reading and the difference is really quite amazing.
It’s not trick photography but just knowing how to look at the camera which will show you in a flattering light. Forget bug eye!
You don’t need to be a supermodel.
Practice squinching and perfecting the jawline with a girlfriend. It’s guaranteed good for some laughs but in all seriousness, it does work.
Thank you Peter!
Writing A Profile For Online Dating
So now you have a great photo, you need to write the profile.
For more information about writing a profile and also interpreting a profile, Lisa Copeland’s book is full of practical tips that really spell out what you need to do and what not to do.
Lisa will guide you through creating a profile, plus what to expect and then how to deal with it all.
It can be a bit scary for first timers and Lisa goes into great detail about what is okay and what is not okay from both parties.
There’s’ also a section on how to avoid scammers. Scamming is part of our lives now and we have to be vigilant.
Just a word about his profile too.
Yes, the first impression is the photo and we are all human and are naturally attracted to attractiveness however pleased don’t bypass someone because they may not meet the physical attributes of Thor.
I know this point is hammered but it really is the warm engaging personality, the kindness etc that is most important.
Don’t set the boundaries so high that you eliminate the good guys without delving more deeply into their background.
There is more information about Lisa’s book here. I can highly recommend this book. It is not just about online dating, it is for anyone who is looking to start dating again or is already dating and needs some tips.
As I read each chapter I thought to myself, I will have to reread that section as there was so much good practical advice. Her advice and information is spot on.
Lisa also talks about her own experiences and how she dealt with certain situations.
Know Where To Meet Men In The Real World
There isn’t a magic formula for this and women always lament that the ‘best men are already taken.’ Maybe men say this about women also.
It really is about putting yourself out there and getting out and about.
An obvious place to begin is by thinking about the things you like doing. What are your interests? Things that might come to mind are… travel, playing tennis, walking, going to the movies, dancing and so on.
Do some background detective work and go looking for some clubs or groups in your area that fit with your interests or hobbies.
Join a group or some groups and get to know more people.
This will automatically expand your social horizons and give you the opportunity to meet more people.
Here is a list that may spark an idea for you.
If you have any more, I would love you to add your thoughts in the comments section below.
There are plenty of mature people traveling alone. Traveling doesn’t mean having to go overseas, or on a fancy holiday.
How about a bus trip which specializes in short or longer trips for older people. There is something to suit everyone in this arena.
Think of your interests. If walking is a love of yours, look for a walking holiday.
You may not meet the man of your dreams but you may meet a new companion and friend.
Whether your taste be the opera or rock n roll, there are plenty of options but it’s no good just thinking about it, you need to get out there and enjoy yourself.
Some pubs have jazz sessions on Saturday afternoon where I live. Look for something like this in your area.
It may be at a soup kitchen or if you have green thumbs, replanting coastal sand dunes with native flora.
If this option interest you, you are likely already going to church but how about getting involved in some of the behind the scenes things that may be happening at your church.
This really is interest driven but if you are into painting look at taking some painting classes or joining a group that visits galleries.
Playing Bridge is hugely popular or Chess or Mahjong.
The one thing to take away from this is that there is no one single place to meet a potential husband as it could be at the bus stop and yet that normally wouldn’t factor as place to find a man.
(Well who knows, maybe the bus stop is full of eligible men).
It is a matter of getting out and about, communicating with others and maybe rediscovering long lost interests or discovering new ones.
Find A Partner After 50. You Are Nearly There…
But my arms are flabby, my tummy is wobbly and I have a double chin.
Does this sound like you? I was just thinking, it sounds like me.
Let’s face it, we girls can be very critical of ourselves and we really need to stop doing that.
We really have to get over our jiggly bits and just get on with enjoying life.
However that doesn’t mean that we just let ourselves go. Let ourselves go, might be a bit harsh but a bit of a spruce up could be in order.
Maybe it is time time to have a style makeover.
Have you had the same hairstyle or worn the same makeup for eons?
Yes, I know it suits you but maybe just maybe it could be updated.
I did the whole style and color shebang a couple of years ago and it is amazing how much time it saves me when shopping for clothes as I now know what to eliminate straightaway.
I also know what colors to go for, although I do rebel sometimes and step outside my color zone.
The styling is was what hugely helped me. Who knew I had slim hips? I sure didn’t. I thought they were pretty normal but no, slimmer than normal.
This meant I could wear skirts with ’bottom interest’ – no laughing now. I could wear swirly skirts, gathered skirts and in fact most skirts I had been avoiding my whole life.
Mind you I had accidentally bought the “right” style a couple of times but didn’t know why it looked right.
It is actually all down to Maths and measurements.
I never was any good at Maths at school.
Really Maths at school could be so much more fun.
Anyway I highly recommend a style and color makeover. It’s going to give you a boost of confidence too and that is always good.
Sometimes we have become so used to our Look that we really wouldn’t know how to make changes. We get stuck in a ‘certain look’ rut.
As we age, our skin texture does also and it is a good idea to have a refresher about what colors really do suit. I must say, it makes it super easy to buy makeup now. I know what suits me and for me it is bypass anything pink. That eliminates a lot of hassle.
The style makeover was a revelation and I wish I had had it done when I was much younger.
It is absolutely 100% worth it to have a style and color makeover.
When you feel good about yourself, in the eyes of the man you will be good looking too.
It is never too late to work your way to a confident good look that will turn heads and stop traffic when you walk down the streets. Maybe stopping traffic is exaggerating but you will feel good about yourself and that is what is important and what shows.
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